“My mind rarely rests, even when nothing is obviously wrong.”
Counselling for adults · Online across the UK
Look fine on the outside — but feel very different inside?
You may be capable, thoughtful and the person others rely on, while anxiety, exhaustion, self-doubt or repeating patterns continue quietly underneath.
Counselling offers a confidential space to understand what may be happening — and begin relating to yourself with greater clarity, compassion and choice.
Hello, I’m Lilian — an MBACP registered counsellor and the person behind SomaSoul. I offer a warm, thoughtful space where you do not have to hold everything alone — a space to find your way back to a calmer, clearer and more connected self.
More about me
You can begin with the simple sense that something needs to change.
MBACP
Registered
Counsellor
Counsellor
You may recognise yourself here
Something does not have to look dramatic to be difficult to carry.
Some people arrive while still holding everything together. Others come when even ordinary demands have become too much. Both experiences are welcome here.
You may know exactly what has brought you to counselling, or only have a persistent feeling that something is not right.
See what counselling can support“I keep saying yes, then feel exhausted, resentful or invisible.”
“Other people see competence. I privately feel I am never enough.”
“I understand the pattern, but I still seem to end up in the same place.”
A different place to begin
What if the pattern once made sense?
Anxiety, withdrawing, pleasing, overworking, staying alert or finding it hard to rest may make more sense when understood in the context of your experiences and relationships.
Counselling does not begin by forcing these responses away. We become curious about what they may have helped you manage, avoid or preserve — while making room for choices that fit your life now.
Discover how I workPerhaps the question is not only “Why am I like this?” but also “What might this have been trying to protect?”
Ways to work together
Different ways to work together — one free call to find your fit.".
You do not need to decide which approach you need before making contact. The initial call gives us space to consider what you are looking for and whether working together feels right.
Primary service
Individual Counselling
A consistent, confidential space to explore anxiety, low mood, burnout, self-doubt, boundaries, difficult experiences and patterns that continue to shape how you feel or relate.
- Length
- 50 minutes
- Weekly
- £60
Specialist option
Systemic Family Constellations
A focused, experiential session exploring family relationships, learned roles or repeating patterns when a systemic perspective feels relevant and meaningful to you.
- Length
- 60 minutes
- Fee
- £85
- Format
- Standalone or integrated
How I work
Your experience comes before any method.
My foundation is integrative counselling. This means I draw thoughtfully from different therapeutic perspectives while keeping the relationship, your pace and your sense of choice at the centre.
Words matter, but they are not always the only doorway. When useful and agreed together, we may also notice emotion, bodily experience, imagery or wider relationship patterns.
Explore my approachRelational
Feeling heard, taken seriously and able to be honest can become part of the change itself.
Trauma-aware
Safety, pacing, consent and choice guide the work without assuming that every difficulty is trauma.
Somatic awareness
We can listen beyond intellectual understanding when another way of exploring feels helpful.
Systemic & transgenerational patterns
Family, culture, relationships and learned roles may offer useful context without being imposed as fact.
A client reflection
A reflection from a former counselling client
“Our sessions consistently offer a safe, calming space where I feel supported and genuinely seen.”
— Former counselling client
Read more client reflections
Lilian PilgrimMBACP Registered Integrative Counsellor
Meet Lilian
A thoughtful, human relationship held by professional training.
I know what it is to appear capable while carrying something very different underneath. That lived understanding informs my humanity; professional training, ethics, supervision and clear boundaries hold my practice.
I am an MBACP Registered Integrative Counsellor and Systemic Family Constellations Facilitator. I aim to offer warmth without assumption, depth without force and honest reflection without reducing you to a label.
Beginning practically
A simple first step, with no pressure to have decided everything.
Choose a time
Book a free 20–30 minute online call at a time that works for you.
Tell me a little
Share only what feels necessary. You do not need to tell your full story during the first call.
Notice how it feels
Ask practical questions and consider whether I may be the right counsellor for you.
Prefer to write first? You are welcome to send a brief enquiry instead.
Visit the Contact pageBegin where you are
Start with a 30-minute conversation.
The initial call is a quiet place to ask questions, tell me a little about what brings you here and notice whether working together feels possible.
Lilian Pilgrim · MBACP Registered Integrative Counsellor · English & Portuguese