Feeling Anxious, Depressed or Stuck?
You're Not Alone.
Do you:
- • Look fine on the outside — but feel exhausted, lost or empty inside?
- • Lie awake overthinking, wondering why you can't just feel better?
- • Sense that something deeper is keeping you stuck — but can't quite name it?
- • Feel like you've tried to change, but keep ending up in the same place?
- • Wonder — and quietly hope — that there might be another way?
This work is for people who are tired of managing — and quietly wonder and hope there is another way.
Individual Counselling & Family Constellation therapy Online across the UK &' internationally, and in Exeter, Devon.
Book a Free Initial ConsultationSOMASOUL COUNSELLINg
You Don't Have to Understand It to Feel It
Many of my clients arrive not quite knowing how to describe what's wrong. They just know something feels off — and has for a long time.
They are often high-functioning, capable people. They show up for work, for their families, for everyone around them. But inside, there is a quieter, heavier experience — anxiety that won't settle, a low mood that comes and goes, relationships that follow the same painful patterns, or a deep sense of not being enough, no matter what they achieve.
Some have tried therapy before. They found it helpful — but felt it only went so far. They talked, they understood, they nodded. And yet something remained unmoved.
That something is what we work with here.
At SomaSoul Counselling, I work at the level of the body, the story, and the deeper patterns that have shaped you — often without you consciously knowing. Because understanding alone rarely brings lasting change. It's in the processing — feeling it, moving through it, releasing what the body still holds — that something finally shifts.
Learn more about how I work
There is no greater journey than the one you make back to your Self.
how I work / Approach
My Approach — Going Deeper Than Managing Symptoms
I combine counselling, somatic (body-based) awareness and Family Constellation therapy — three different ways of understanding why you feel stuck, and what it will take to move forward.
This isn't therapy that gives you tools to cope better with a life that doesn't feel right. This is therapy that helps you understand why that life feels the way it does — and begins to change it from the inside out.
🌿 When the body holds what words can't reach
Anxiety, depression and emotional pain don't just live in our thoughts. They live in the body — as tension, heaviness, a tight chest, an inability to rest. We work gently with what your body is holding, because that is often where the deepest change happens.
🌀 What your feelings are really telling you
they are the body's way of trying to protect you from something that once felt too painful or too dangerous to face. In our work together, we gently get curious about what these feelings are carrying — and what they have been trying to do for you all this time. That shift in understanding alone can be quietly life-changing.
🌳 The patterns that were never yours to carry
Sometimes what we struggle with didn't begin with us. The anxiety, the shame, the feeling of never being enough — these can have roots that go much further back than our own story. We work together to understand what truly belongs to you, and what you may have been carrying for others without knowing it.
✨ Finding your way back to yoursel
The goal is not simply to feel less bad. It is to feel genuinely, quietly at home in yourself — to make choices from a place of clarity rather than fear, and to live from who you actually are, not who you learned to be.
"What matters isn't the technique. It's that you finally feel seen, understood, and supported in living a life that feels authentically yours."
WHAT CLIENTS SAY
Stories of transformation
"Working with Lilian has been a truly transformative experience. From our very first session, I felt seen, heard, and supported in a way I hadn't experienced before. Lilian creates a warm, safe space where it's easy to open up, and her insight and compassion helped me navigate challenges I once thought were impossible to overcome. I would wholeheartedly recommend her to anyone seeking meaningful and lasting change.
Erin M.
"Over three years, it has been a true privilege to work with Lilian. Our sessions consistently offer a safe, calming space where I feel supported and genuinely seen. We have explored some deeply challenging aspects of my life, and I feel that — with Lilian's thoughtful support and — I have been able to grow and mature in meaningful ways. I would highly recommend her to anyone seeking a counsellor who is attentive, respectful, and genuinely kind.
— Natasha M.
"Lilian helped me work through a very difficult time in my life. She enabled me to unlock new awareness into my thoughts and feelings — to understand why I might be feeling a certain way. Her approach was kind and non-judgmental, and it allowed me to be truly open and honest. I found a new strength and self-awareness I am very grateful for. I would highly recommend Lilian's integrative approach."
— E.S.
"I've attempted therapy a number of times over the years, always with some success — but it wasn't until working with Lilian that I truly made progress. Her ability to read between the lines and pick up on underlying issues was without doubt one of the key elements in my recovery. She would say it was me that did the work — and as always, she'd be correct. But I really wouldn't be where I am now if it weren't for her."
Leon — Google Review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
What I can Support With
You Don't Need to Know What's Wrong to Begin
Most people who reach out don't arrive with a neat diagnosis or a clear explanation of why they feel the way they do. They just know something isn't right — and they're tired of feeling that way alone.
I work with adults and young people 16+ who are experiencing:
🧠 Mental Health
Anxiety, depression, panic attacks, overwhelm, burnout
💔 Relationships
Communication issues, boundaries, trust, patterns
🌱 Trauma
Childhood trauma, complex trauma, challenging life events
🌳 Family Patterns
Generational trauma, family dysfunction, difficult inherited patterns
🚀 Life Transitions
Career changes, identity questions, major decisions
💪 Personal Growth
Self-awareness, resilience building, authentic living
Services
How We Work Together
Individual Online Counselling - A consistent, confidential space — just for you.
We meet weekly or fortnightly, online or in person in Exeter. Over time, we build the kind of trust and safety that allows real work to happen — not just talking about how you feel, but understanding why, and beginning to shift it.
This is depth work. It takes time. Most clients work with me for six months to a year, sometimes longer. Because real change — the kind that lasts — doesn't happen in six sessions.
Learn moreSession details:
Sessions: 50 minutesWeekly: £60 | Fortnightly: £75
Online (UK & International) | Limited in-person spaces in Exeter, Devon
Reduced rates available for students and low-income households
Systemic Family Constellations - For when the same patterns keep returning — no matter what you do.
Have you ever felt that your struggles didn't quite start with you? That the anxiety, the shame, or the way you relate to others feels somehow inherited — passed down through your family in ways you can't fully explain?
Family Constellation therapy works with exactly this.
In a constellation session, we gently explore your family system — not to blame anyone, but to see clearly what has been carried, what belongs to whom, and what you can begin to set down.
Learn moreSession details:
Individual Online sessions: £85 Limited in-person sessions in ExeterGroup Constellations wokshops: contact for dates
MEET LILIAN PILGRIM
Your Journey to Healing Starts with Understanding
I understand what it feels like to navigate life's challenges while trying to hold everything together. Like many people, I've experienced times when everything appeared fine on the surface, but inside I was struggling with the weight of daily pressures and expectations.
Through my own journey of learning to cope with life's complexities — whether juggling work responsibilities, experiencing post childhood trauma, family commitments, or simply managing the demands of everyday life — I've come to deeply understand how isolating and overwhelming it can feel when you're putting on a brave face while battling inner turmoil.
Professional Training & Approach
I am a MBACP registered Counsellor with training in trauma, somatic(body-based awareness) approaches and over 15 years working with transgenerational trauma, I bring both professional expertise and lived experience to our relationship.
Learn moreFREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
What is Trauma-informed counselling?
Trauma-informed counselling means I understand how difficult experiences affect your mind, body, and emotions. I create a safe space where we work at your pace, without pushing you before you're ready. This approach recognizes that healing happens when you feel safe and in control.
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Trauma-informed counselling means I understand how difficult experiences affect your mind, body, and emotions. I create a safe space where we work at your pace, without pushing you before you're ready. This approach recognizes that healing happens when you feel safe and in control.
CloseWhat do Soma, Somatic and SomaSoul mean?
"Soma" refers to the body in its living, experiencing wholeness. "Somatic" means relating to the body. "SomaSoul" represents the integration of body and soul in the therapeutic process, acknowledging that healing involves both physical and spiritual dimensions of our being.
CloseWhat is Transgenerational Healing?
We explore emotional/psychological patterns that have been passed down through generations in families. This approach helps clients understand how unresolved trauma, beliefs, and behaviors from previous generations may be influencing their current life experiences and relationships.
CloseIs this for me if I function well on the outside but feel anxious inside?
Yes. We work precisely with the parts of ourselves that we often hide from others—the parts that feel vulnerable, anxious, or not-good-enough despite external success. Many high-functioning individuals benefit from this work to find greater inner peace and authenticity.
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Contact Information
+44 7485 284509
Online (UK & International)
Exeter, Devon (limited spaces)
Within 24-48 hours
Monday to Friday
- Integrative
- Somatic
- Trauma-informed
- Relational
